Live In The Moment

The best thing about being grandparents is knowing there is no perfect. Things don’t go as planned , and all that matters at the end of the day is that you loved and felt love.

This was the 1st time we had all three of our grandchildren together and my daughter hired a truly gifted photographer that has captured beautiful pictures of her family. Here we have a 2 1/2 year old, a 6 month old and a 1 month old. As you can see, the memo that it was photo day was not received.  Someone is crying in every pic of the day but the joy of having them all together will never be lost in my heart.

So, take the pictures, make the memories. It does not matter if they are “insta worthy” or “perfect”.   This day does not come again, there are more to come, but this one only happens today.

Thankful Thanksgiving

Happy Thanksgiving!!

This year, like for many of you, looks different for our family.

When my son joined the military, I felt like my dad had really prepared me. He was always happy to celebrate holidays and birthdays whenever we could be together. The day didn’t matter. This is our 3rd Thanksgiving without our Marine but now, we have a nurse, an EMT and a essential worker doing COVID clean-ups, and we are in the middle of a pandemic, as 1st year empty nesters.

Today, my husband and me spent a quiet day with our granddaughter, baking, watching movies, dancing and singing. Tomorrow we will celebrate with our daughter and son in love and his parents. When we get home, we will celebrate with our youngest and Christmas will be with our middle son and his newborn son.

It is weird to have each child have their own holiday with us, but we also know how incredibly blessed we are. We are healthy, happy, and know how much we love each other.

Our SILs parents are truly the kindest, most genuine people I have ever meet and am grateful to have them as family.

In life, just because things don’t look the way we thought they would, does not mean they are not just as they should be.

National Inner Beauty Day

Today is National Inner Beauty Day! With all of the chaos and confusion of life recently, it is easy to lose track of ourselves. We need to remember to shine a light on what is inside of us that makes us special and unique. As we look at the world around us to find beauty, in a sunrise or sunset, a flower on a daily walk, a small child’s smile…..we all have beauty inside of us as well. By embracing and honoring that inner beauty, we stop searching and can begin to enjoy the journey.

Today I challenge you to write down 5 things about yourself that reflect and acknowledge your inner beauty.

Choose To Learn..

Well, today has been a lesson in challenges for sure. I had to take a moment and reset myself for the day…..we have the opportunity to learn from each set back. Find new ways to problem solve…sometimes see that less is more. Accept that things happen out of our control but we can chose to not be discouraged and push through. Wishing you all a beautiful and bright day, despite any challenges the day brings.

Where Our Strength Come From..

Great quote from great podcast I listened to this morning. Now matter how tough or uncertain things are, we can pick ourselves up and get stronger.
https://open.spotify.com/episode/3mma6uv5vjPgn4ZXl4Fd18?si=5nb46o_gQrKm1r-4LKewHw

Time To Take Control

Learning this week that once again we had to step back from live workouts back to virtual, I will admit I was sad and frustrated. But in life we always have the  opprotunity to learn and grow in each situation. So, this time around I am taking control and creating an online platform for us to connect, share amd workout. I am really excited and hope you will join me. More details to come.

Food For The Soul

_ Food For The Body Is Not Enough. There Must Be Food For The Soul_ Dorothy Day

Lately, I have been so focused on food. What to eat, when to eat, guilt eating with my husband, one day deciding to just eat to be happy, next looking at my body wanting to make changes…all the while neglecting what is most important. Fulfilling my soul.

I like so many of you start a good habit, journaling, meditating, working out, eating clean and then we get distracted. One day snowballs into many and we feel overwhelmed, stressed, anxious, questioning ourselves. All because we didn’t the 5, 10, 15 minutes to feed our soul and set our day up for success. Or at the end of the day I go over what I didn’t get done on my to-do list instead of giving myself credit for all I did accomplish.

Even things that bring me joy, I feel “bad” for not doing them. “You didn’t write on the blog. You didn’t read that library book You didn’t choreograph a new song for class.”  How can I be creative if I make the things I love a “job”, just another thing on my to-do list?

A couple weeks back my husband and I were in a fight and not speaking. My son who I had not seen in 6 months let me know that he his trip home had been extended again. I looked at the text and the Christmas tree still up, started crying and knew, I needed to go.

I looked up flights and found a ticket in my budget at time that I could actually take time off work. and I booked it. Knowing that I might only get to see my son briefly in the evenings. That I would be in a town I have never been to and that I would not know anyone.

So here I am in Jacksonville, NC. It has been what most would consider a boring trip to this point but it has been just what I needed. I read a book on the plane that I bought myself before Christmas. Then I watched a movie that have been wanting to see for months. I landed, had dinner with my son and got to hear about his new roommate and a training he is gearing up to go out in the field for. Meaning he will be off the grid and I won’t even get the one word texts  get now for weeks at a time. We checked into my room and he opened his Christmas. The look on his face made me so happy that I did not mail them but stuffed them into my carry-on.

As I knew may happen, his time off was not approved and he had to go back to base. The next day it rained all day. So, I slept in, binge watched bad TV shows and did my online volunteer work, without guilt. At home I feel bad about what I don’t get done because of volunteering or I feel bad that I did not help enough volunteering because I was busy at home. Again, something I started because it makes me happy to help others. I ate oatmeal at breakfast even though I didn’t work out and I had M&M’s in the afternoon. Then I got dressed, went to a box store just to wander, no shopping list to check off and then dinner with my son. Another evening of great conversation. He went back to base and I had another night of sleep hogging all the pillows.

Today I woke up, ready for a quick workout in my room, not because I had to, because I wanted to. Now I am in a bookstore cafe, with a new mystery novel recommended by one of the staff. I loved mysteries as a kid and don’t read them as an adult. I took it as a sign from the universe that it is time. Also 3 people walked by me saying how great of a book it is. I sat down with a latte and felt inspired to write. So, here I am, waiting for a text from my son, ready to spend the weekend together. Also grateful for the time to just be quiet. To not feel bad for not meditating or reading or doing the things I “should” have done and letting them become the things I want to do again.

We need to feed our bodies and our souls. Not with guilt and regret but with love and acceptance. I hope this weekend you find the space to feed your soul, no matter what that looks like for you.

Plant The Seeds….

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This is the time of year where we began to look at the goals we set at the new year and feel like we have hit a plateau, are not were we thought we would be or maybe we haven’t even started.

We push for perfection and in doing that, we procrastinate even starting. We judge the harvest we are reaping as not “good enough” or  because it is just “good enough” it is not enough.

So we keep putting off our dreams, set our goals aside for another day.

Today, let’s recognize that the seeds we take the time to plant matter. Good enough and done is better than waiting for perfection.

I have really struggled with my focus lately and have been setting my goals and dreams aside, as I am struggling to get balance in my life.

So, today I  will start to plant the seeds again. Meditate on my dreams, show gratitude for all I am blessed with and do the work, even if it is not perfect. Good enough can become excellent. Nothing remains nothing.

Wishing you a beautiful day full of new seeds to plant and a harvest full of creative, positive energy to propel your dreams forward.